I have had plenty of heartbreaks over the years. My faith has saved me from jumping into toxic relationships but even now, being a Christian, it can still be hard getting over someone you thought was the one. A few years ago, I started learning about relationships, and I continue to read books, sermons, podcasts, and watch videos based on relationships. I want to share with you how to get over and move on from difficult heartbreaks because, sister, I feel you, it is hard! and I want to share with you how I moved on. All these tips I am sharing with you have helped me and encouraged me to become a better woman of God and keep improving myself while going through a heartbreak.
It’s okay to cry
We are still humans, and it is okay to cry it out but what’s not okay is to cry for weeks. I always told myself, “I will never cry for a boy,” but when I was invested in him and had genuine feelings, I could not ignore the swelling in my throat. I had moments in my day where I needed to go to the bathroom and cry, but I wiped my tears and went on with my day. I just needed a good cry and afterwards I felt better.
Run to God
I know this sounds cheesy, but it is true. How would I be, and where would I be without God? My whole entire life would be different and dark if I had not known God or surrendered to Him. If you are reading this and don’t know God, please let me share with you the amazing news that saves hearts. God sent down on this dark world his one and only son named JESUS so he could live sin free and die on the cross for our wrongdoings and sin. I encourage you to get to know God for the loving father He is, you will not regret it, and what do you have to lose? If I did not know God I would have not known I am deeply loved by the King and creator of this world, and my life would be a complete mess. God has saved me out of my deep waters of being drowned by my sinful emotions and regrets. I encourage you to pray and seek God and accept him into your life! If you do not know or need more understanding, feel free to shoot me an email! I want you to also experience that worth, love, and peace from Him. There is nothing on this earth just like it.
First, love yourself!
This is so crucial! And it’s important to start practicing self-love first before you enter a new relationship. Once you love yourself and see your worth, you would not want to settle for less for someone who doesn’t treat you the way you should. Every day you wake up, be intentional with yourself and the way you carry yourself. Be yourself! Like they say, the right people will love you just the way you are. Once you are able to truly love yourself, you will then be able to love someone else. You can't pour out to others when your glass is half empty and filled with insecurities you haven't dealt with. You can’t make the other person love you if you feel broken inside, and you can’t expect them to fix you. Stop saying, “I’m looking for my other half”. Sister you can feel complete and whole with God. Some ways that have helped me love myself are spending time alone (but don’t isolate yourself), self-care, doing things I love, and hanging out with the people that love me. Please don’t jump into a relationship if you don’t love yourself first!
Do what you enjoy doing
Have you found your purpose? Are you passionate about something? Is there a talent or a new hobby you want to pick up? Spend your time actively doing something you love! One of the few things I love to do is travel and hike. During a heartbreak, I try to distract myself by going on a hike with a friend or going to a nearby national park. I live near Big Bear, which is located in San Bernardino, and I am in love with that area, it’s my favorite gateway from reality. I also like working out, so I had more time to focus on myself and my body. Working out allowed me to release my emotions out and makes me work harder. I encourage you to do more of what you enjoy doing!
Here is pic of me on a fun hike I did! Hiking helps me clear my mind and enjoy the environment. This hike is located in Southern, California.
Work on yourself – The glow up
I am always about self-improvement! I enjoy reading and listening to podcasts about how I can improve in myself, relationships, faith, and so on. SISTERS, don’t wait around for a guy to start treating yourself right or start pampering yourself. You need to start taking amazing care of yourself NOW. Get cute for yourself! Some things I enjoy doing is using masks, taking care of my hair, exfoliating my body, whitening my teeth for myself and for no one else. Can I be honest? Some women begin pampering themselves once they’re seeing or dating someone, but until they are single, they stop taking care of themselves. Don’t do it for a guy, do it for yourself because you deserve to feel like a boss lady and a queen every day of your life!
Take advantage of your single season
I know this season is not everyone’s favorite season, but it is one of the most important stages! I used to hate being single, but after learning more about the single of singlesness, I learned to love it and appreciate it. I highly recommended watching pastor Michael Todd’s Relationship Goals series, it is long but so worth it! No lie, but I have watched and listened to their relationship series multiple times. Of course, I have my moments when I feel lonely, but I relisten to the first or second episode in the series, and in the end, I am glad to be single. Society makes being single sound like a bad thing, but it’s the opposite it is the best thing. You can’t do many things when you are in a relationship or married that you can do when you’re single. Once you have a husband and have kids, you're going to wish you spent taking advantage of your single years. Don't wait till you are married to start enjoying life, start right now!
If you're interested in learning more about relationships, I highly recommend this series! Click on the image for link.
Use that free time to be more intellectual
I know some people do not like to read, and I totally understand that, but would you read to get away from your feelings and dive deep into stories that get your mind off your heartbreak? I have always been a bookworm, but recently after a heartbreak, I started to read more books about self-care, faith, and books for fun. I found a cool app early last year that I have been obsessed with it is called Wattpad, and I am not sponsored at all, but I truly love this app. If you like to read fiction books and like free stories, then I recommended checking out Wattpad it has numerous surprisingly intriguing books. Besides reading for fun, I enjoy learning about topics I enjoy such as religion, fitness, human trafficking, etc. I found it important to keep my mind learning and growing during difficult times. Keep your mind busy!
Being 26, I have had a few heartbreaks, and I found these tips to help me out. I really hope I was able to help you out or give you some inspiration to move on from heartbreaks in a healthy manner. Sometimes the way we move on is by changing how we think and act, so I encourage you to do the things you love to help you move on from a past relationship.
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